What do you think? Should I pay for the shoes?My mom took my daughther out to nordstroms with her on sunday.?

.My mom dressed my daughter in the clothes I sent with her except the shoes I sent, instead she put her on these flat leather thong sandals (my daughter is 2). These are the type of shoes grown women wear when the want to sit and just be cute. So my called me at work and told me what a great sale norstrom was having, she told me that she had a few cute outfits for my daughter in her hand. She said if she bought them, I had to reimburse her, I told her I coundn%26#039;t afford to by anything right now and my daughter has more than enough clothes for the summer, including Sunday clothes. She went on and on about how cute she would be in these outfits and how she coudn%26#039;t believe I wouldn%26#039;t get them for her. I ended giving in to a 10 dollars dress.When I picked her up that evening she had on $40 shoes and my mom demanded the money for them, I told her only get the dress. We had a huge blow out. Now she is trying to make me feel guilty about not being able to shop the way she does for her

What do you think? Should I pay for the shoes?My mom took my daughther out to nordstroms with her on sunday.?
You are correct. She is the one who bought the clothes against your wishes so she is responsible for paying for them. Now, in the interest of family, you should probably compromise. Sit down with your mother and explain that you cannot afford to shop in the way she does. You might bring up the fact that you are trying to raise your daughter to not expect new clothes and shoes just because they look cute on her. You might offer to split the cost this time, but stress that if it happens again you will not be able to reimburse her.
Reply:If your mom wanted to buy your daughter something, that should have been on her dime. Don%26#039;t pay for the shoes. If she brings it up just say, %26quot;Mom, you can do what you want with your own money but you can%26#039;t spend mine.%26quot;
Reply:Turn the other cheek! Honor your Father and your Mother. Pay for the shoes, and request the receipt, or not. If you really cannot afford the shoes, return them discreetly, otherwise keep them if the child enjoys them. Next time, leave some room for your mother%26#039;s spending on your child in your budget. It is something she enjoys doing.





I think that you are being wrong about the style. It sounds like you and your mother are battling about something entirely different. You don%26#039;t like your mother! Forgive her for past misdeeds.
Reply:Don%26#039;t pay for anything! I don%26#039;t mean to put down your ma, but if /she/ took your daughter shopping, then /she/ should pay. Making you reimburse isn%26#039;t right!
Reply:A friend of mine%26#039;s mother just did the same thing.


You were honest with her and told her that you couldn%26#039;t afford it.


And yes, she is trying to make you feel guilty...but we should all know that mothers are good at that!


If you don%26#039;t have the money to pay for $40 shoes for your 2 year old daughter, then you don%26#039;t have it. You need to tell her that. (I don%26#039;t even have money for $40 shoes for myself!)


If it%26#039;s that big of an issue for her, tell her that she can do one of two things...take the shoes back, or keep them at her house and your daughter can only wear them when she is over there.


Oh and if you don%26#039;t want your mom buying stuff that makes your daughter think she%26#039;s grown, you gotta tell her that too.


My friend%26#039;s 2 year old is going on 22!


I hope this helps.
Reply:I wouldn%26#039;t pay your mother back at all. Why can%26#039;t she buy her grandchild the shoes?? Shes the one who brought her to the store. Tell your mother that you simply cant afford to buy 40.00 dollar shoes for a 2 year old, it makes no sense there feet grow to fast, you%26#039;d rather save the 40.00 dollars for something she really wants!!
Reply:Well if you talked about it and decided just on the dress then only pay for the dress. Let your mom eat the 40.00 for a pair of kids shoes. She wanted them and now knowing a two year old they are scuffed on the bottom and can%26#039;t be returned.
Reply:dont pay her you dont owe her anything she owes you some baby shoes
Reply:I wouldn%26#039;t pay her back, you told her you didn%26#039;t even have the money to spend on new clothes and she didn%26#039;t need any. If she wanted her to really have the clothes and shoes she would have bought them herself and not ask for you to pay her back.
Reply:Don%26#039;t pay for them... you said no when she called. So, if she did, that%26#039;s her problem. Don%26#039;t worry about making her mad. If she doesn%26#039;t like the way you clothe your daughter then she can pay for the things she thinks she %26quot;needs%26quot;.





Mothers are great for making you feel like you%26#039;re doing everything wrong and making you feel guilty about it....ignore her. Not to be mean....but facts are facts. You worry about your daughter, not your mother!
Reply:Well, you dont want your mother to be mad at you, so I would just pay for it and try to not get her to buy anything else. Especailly if your daughter is only 2, you have to start saving money for when shes 16, because she will need about 10 times more than what you spend for her now. Let your mom know that and maybe it will work.
Reply:that is really mean of your mother. But if you cant pay for the shoes, dont give in! yes, your mother wants her grand daughter to look cute but if you cant afford it, just tell her firmly that you cant and leave it at that. she might be mad and throw a tantrum (lol) but you can%26#039;t give in. shes%26#039;s your daughter and what you put on her and buy her is up to you. good luck! ;)
Reply:wow:


1) why is your mom demanding her money when she knows you cant afford to pay her back, and she voluntarly spent the money on the child.


2) i dont think you have to pay her the rest of the money since you already paid the 10 for the dress she voluntarly bought her granddaughter.


3) she is your mom y is she asking for cash when she spent money on her granddaughter as a voluntary gift, thats sad...sry to say





good luck :), though
Reply:absolutley not


your mother bought those herself


you didn%26#039;t ask her too


give them back and tell her to return them if she wants the money for them. stand your gorund!
Reply:if u can not afford it, then don%26#039;t break urself on clothes that ur child doesnt need. Don%26#039;t pay for those shoes, beccasue 1st off it is obsird 40 dollar shoes for a 2 year old. And also don%26#039;t let her get u down, because that is her granddaughter and she should try to contribute things into her life as in clothes
Reply:You%26#039;ll have to stick to your guns. Buying $40 shoes for a 2 yr old is an extravagance no matter what your finances are since your daughter will likely grow out of them right away. Tell her if she want to get reimbursed, she%26#039;ll have to return the shoes. Good luck! (Moms are crazy)
Reply:You shouldn%26#039;t have to repay your mom. If you told her that you could not afford the things, she shouldn%26#039;t have bought them. Tell her if she wants your child to have unnecessary things, that she will have to pick up the expense.
Reply:NO WAY should you pay for the shoes. I%26#039;d give them back to her and tell her to return them. You told her not to buy anything and she did it on her own.



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